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One of the most profound relationships in the human experience is that of a deep friendship. Before we even have a firm grasp of language we learn what it means to be a friend, and as we grow, so does our understanding of the preciousness of these connections. Some of us are blessed to have met a kindred spirit who planted themselves so deeply in our hearts that they will stay there forever. There is a powerful time in a true friendship that is so unique and bonding that it forges a lifelong connection between two people regardless of time passed or miles between them. It often occurs closer to the beginning of a friendship, but not before there is some time behind it so trust has a firm foothold. And it is this trust that allows the next, most profound phase of the friendship to occur – the part that links up these two hearts and souls for life. It’s actually hard to describe what this connection feels like or what it means for me. It seems it is only in reflection that I can identify the essence of this experience and its ultimate purpose. I recently revisited an old picture of me with my best friend of many years and I was immediately reminded of this precious time and what it all means. When two friends meet that are meant for each other – like married couples are meant for each other – they feel compelled towards this connection. It’s as if their individual energies become amplified through this union. Two women joining together and empowering the other through their trust and love. Perhaps men feel this too, but I know with certainty that women cherish this aspect of their friendships, especially the ones closest to them. I believe it is because of their unwavering trust and commitment to each other that this occurs. Each one is stronger for that support, knowing that they are not alone with their feelings, needs, and hopeful desires. Each feels heard, seen, understood, and greatly valued. Like all relationships there are moments of grace, alongside moments of conflict. In fact the closer their connection becomes, the more likely it is that conflict may occur. This, again, is a function of that firmly established trust.
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