THE RELATIONSHIP BENEATH THE WORK

When we have a healthy relationship with ourselves, one that is based in acceptance and an understanding of our true worth, we stop trying to prove ourselves to others. We stop sacrificing our needs and desires out of a belief that we don't deserve to receive.

And as artists, a healthy relationship with ourselves is rooted in our ability to notice our thoughts and consider if they are serving us—do they align with and support our purpose and desire to make authentic work?

But often this is not something that we recognize as being a necessary part of our art-making path, which can lead us to struggle with intrusive thoughts, and resistance to doing our work builds. As a result, our work either doesn't get made, or the art we're making feels more performative than connected to our truthful expression.

I recently came across a passage from the book Art and Fear by David Bayles and Ted Orland that reinforces this:

"In large measure becoming an artist consists of learning to accept yourself, which makes your work personal, and in following your own voice, which makes your work distinctive."

In addition, research has shown that writing a personal narrative filled with feelings and perceptions can create long-term health benefits, especially when it is done through the filter of self-understanding and compassion. It turns out that coming to know and accept ourselves is both good for our health and our art-making.

But what prevents us from engaging with self-reflection and meeting ourselves with curiosity and self-acceptance?

If you were to gently ask yourself this question, and listen for the answer, what might you hear?

Often I hear artists saying that it is hard to extend compassion towards themselves when they are struggling. What makes it so difficult to soothe ourselves when we are suffering or feeling lost?

What do you think would need to shift in order for you to meet yourself more gently, and become curious about your thoughts and feelings?

What are you risking by doing so, and what might you gain?

This short version blog post is a part of my Mindset Moment series, an accompanying edition to my bi-monthly blog post. My intention for these Mindset Moments is to speak to some of the common challenges artists face with their creative work, and how a mindset shift can make a difference.

They are short reads with a suggestion or writing prompt that you can work with, as well as an invitation to join in the conversation, sharing your experience and insights.

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